Queen Mothers are exactly that. These women represent a system that works for their people. The men sit quietly and never interfere. Marriage approval is not easy. Much research is done via the designated oral historian. If health issues, criminal behavior … even by a distant family member … or other dis-qualifiers are found, the marriage does not happen. One Queen Mother succinctly stated, “Just look at what happens in patriarchal society. Anyone can marry anyone and it’s a mess!” How does one argue with that?